By Amélie Moncel | Mindset & Identity Coach for Working Mums

When You Don’t Recognise Yourself Anymore, Here’s Where to Start

You used to know what you wanted.
You used to feel confident in your work, your choices, your direction.

But somewhere between sleepless nights, endless to-do lists, and trying to be everything for everyone, you started to lose sight of you.

Now, you catch yourself thinking:
“Who even am I anymore?”

You’re not broken. You’re just evolving and you haven’t had space to meet the woman you’ve become.

The real problem isn’t that you’ve lost yourself. It’s that you haven’t paused to reconnect.

When life moves fast, our energy goes outward, caring, doing, managing, achieving.
But identity work? That requires turning inward.
And that’s something most working mums simply don’t get time (or permission) to do.

Here’s where to start, right now, in less than five minutes:

1. Ask yourself: What’s one thing that makes me feel most me?

It might be walking in nature, creating something, or simply sitting quietly with a coffee before anyone else wakes up.
That’s not indulgence, it’s data. It tells you what reconnects you to yourself.

2. Stop chasing the old version of you.

You’re not meant to “bounce back.” You’re meant to grow forward.
The woman you were before motherhood isn’t the one who’s meant to lead your next chapter.

3. Give yourself credit for how far you’ve come.

You’ve adapted, stretched, and kept going, even on the days it felt impossible.
That’s resilience. That’s strength. That’s identity in motion.

The takeaway:

You don’t need a total life overhaul to feel like yourself again.
You just need small, conscious reconnections and a clear process to rediscover who you are now.

That’s exactly what we do inside You Again, my 10-week program for working mums who are ready to rebuild confidence, release guilt, and remember who they are beneath all the roles.